Give me convenience or give me death ([info]jill1121) wrote,
@ 2006-05-10 19:19:00
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This question is mostly for females but if males have experience they can answer as well.

I just want to know... in my experience I've had a lot of occasions when it felt like men were sexually harassing me. These experiences have ranged from the bar (where it's kind of expected) to the job. I just wanted to know how many other people had similar experiences, if it's more common to happen to females, if perhaps there is something I did to encourage this behavior (I'm not sure what, besides be nice to them beforehand). I just want to see how normal it is basically. Does it happen to everyone?

I don't know maybe this is a dumb question but I've been kind of curious. What is the best way to deal with a gross coworker when you know that if you say something to the supervisor it's going to cause people talking about you behind your back and other problems? I just want some ideas I guess.

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[info]jeniquey
2006-05-11 02:45 am UTC (link)
Hmm....

I have an idea of who you might be talking about, if you're talking about someone in particular from work. :(

I don't know what to tell you.

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[info]just_linzi
2006-05-11 08:48 am UTC (link)
If someone, anyone, causes you to feel uncomfortable, then you need to say something. To either them, or your superior. Be warned that talking directly to them may put you at a disadvantage though since they'll then be able to talk to your manager type person before you (if they are malicious or something..)

I always flirt and am tactile with my workmates - at least, the ones I give a damn about. I've never really felt uncomfortable though, but I know that if I did I'd say something. Even just in an offhand sort of way - followed by a smile. An 'I'm on to you, now leave it alone' warning..

Hope it gets better for you.. :)

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[info]alphabeticy
2006-05-12 03:36 am UTC (link)
at pubs, i feel like if i'm not overly rude to guys they'll have a go, which they do. zero work experiences of it though, but, limited work experiences full stop. is a dilly of a pickle - you can be overtly extremely rude to him, but then he might say something to people higher up about you; you can tell other people, though like you said, could cause other problems. Is there anyone there in a higher position you trust re: discretion and rar? Go to them.

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[info]jill1121
2006-05-13 03:52 am UTC (link)
It's under control for now, but if it happens again I will take that step. For the most part he has not talked to me since.

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